In my last article, I talked about depression and whether people experienced it because of illness or ignorance.
My experience of depression is that many people who I treat who really want to get better, do get better!
I also have some clients who don’t, because they expect me to do all the work for them. After a while, I have informed clients that if they do not put in the work, I cannot help them, because you have to train the mind to think in a different way, in the same way, you have to work out regularly if you want to have a healthier body.
So let me try and explain to you in a short article how your mind works and how you can fix it.
Most people are completely unaware of their thoughts. Their minds are on autopilot for most of the day and they take little notice of what is going on in their heads.
Those thoughts that pass through the mind are made up of our experiences from the past, almost as though we have a storeroom in the back of our minds that has recorded the way we believe previous events have occurred. Though this is only our perception which may be very different from the way others have perceived the same events.
These movies play automatically, just like a TV channel where we don’t have a choice of what programmes to play. So sometimes funny movies play, sometimes dramas, sometimes romance comedies and sometimes horror movies.
Now, if there you have a strong emotion attached to a thought or old movie, those movies come to the front of the storeroom and we play those movies most often.
For example, if you have an argument with someone in the morning and they make you angry, you will probably run that movie over and over again in your mind for most of the day.
Now, every single thought you have, no matter how big or small that thought is, your body reacts to it. The stronger the emotion attached to it, the stronger the thought and the stronger your physical reaction.
For example, if you are churning angry thoughts over and over in your mind, your breathing speeds up and becomes shallow, your heart beats faster and your arteries constrict to allow the blood to flow more quickly to your arms and legs. Also, your hormones go wild as they pump energy into the body in the forms of adrenalin, insulin etc
But as your hormones are responsible for your moods and emotions, the more of them you release into the body, the angrier you feel, which makes you think about the argument even more and the process goes on and on, churning negative thoughts over and over again in your mind as you get stuck in a vicious circle.
And you have no control over it, right?
Because with a little bit of knowledge combined with a little bit of wisdom, you can learn how to deal and let go of these emotions.
The first thing you need to learn is how to stand back and observe these movies replaying in your mind, almost as though rather than being in the film, you are sitting in the auditorium watching them instead. When you learn to do this, you also learn to detach your mind and emotions from the story. As a result, your body stops reacting, your breathing and heart rate slow down, your body relaxes and your hormones come back into balance.
The effect is that your mind becomes calmer.
With regular practice, you will be more aware of the movies playing, and when this happens, you can start to take more control of whether or not you choose to watch them or replace them with happier, more positive films instead.
This is how mindfulness meditation helps you to overcome negative thoughts and emotions.
When you practice mindfulness, all the negative thoughts and emotions that you are carrying around with you every day, start to dissipate.
The result is that every day, you feel calmer and more relaxed. Things that used to irritate or bother you just don’t anymore. You are naturally are in a better mood every day and feel more relaxed and when your mind is calm, the biggest problem in the world feels like the smallest. But when your mind is agitated, the smallest problem in the world becomes the biggest.
If you would like to learn the secrets of really being able to understand and work with your mind, you may begin here, by learning how to meditate. Just click on the link below:
Alternatively, take some time off the hamster wheel and learn to really take back control of your mind and your life, by taking a holiday and spending a couple of hours a day with me at some of these wonderful resorts worldwide. Click below to find out more:
Remember…where there is effort, there is success.