Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

I went to a friend’s party last week where I caught up with a lot of people who I hadn’t seen for about 10 years.

A lot has happened in that time and obviously the old, “So what are you up to now?” question was thrown about several times during the evening.

When I talk about my job, I often get a lot of “Wow, what a great job to have. You really are living a dream life”, kind of response.

And when I talk about it, yes, to some people it may sound amazing.

BUT I know that in reality, if they lived my life very few of them would actually enjoy it.

I travel and work all over the world, live in some of the best 5 Star hotels for free and work 3-5 hours a day doing a job that I absolutely love.

And yes, for me, it’s perfect and I absolutely love it!

But this is what people don’t realize about my life.

I have always been a nomad. I live out of a suitcase and I don’t have a base or anywhere that I call home. Although I am in the process of buying an apartment back in the UK, it is purely for investment purposes and I have no intention of ever living in it.

Every month I live in a different hotel room, which again, I love. But many people find it difficult to sleep in any other bed but their own. I change my room so often that sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and I don’t know where I am. This amuses me, but I can imagine it could freak some people out a bit.

Also, I never cook and I am not really into cooking. I either eat in the hotel restaurants or I order room service. But I know many people love to cook and would hate the thought of eating off the same hotel menu for a whole month at a time.

In addition, I am single as it is very difficult to have a long-term relationship when I am living in a different country every month. But I don’t’ mind. Every day I get to meet new people and go to new places, so it really doesn’t bother me. I very rarely feel lonely and enjoy my own company.

Also, I have very few possessions, one suitcase and my hand luggage to be precise. But I am happy with what I have. “Things” don’t excite me. In fact, they get in the way. The less I have, the less I have to worry about.

As I am restricted with the amount of luggage that I can conveniently take with me, I only buy clothes in 3 different colours; black, white and navy blue. This way, I can always match the few clothes that I do have and don’t have to take too many clothes away with me.

It also means that I only buy new clothes when I am ready to throw something else out. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be able to fit it in.

I rarely take a holiday as my life feels like it is one. When I do take some time out from work, there is only one place I want to go…. back to England to spend time with my family. Most of all in the winter months when I can escape the heat and experience some freezing cold weather. I LOVE THE COLD!!!

So, does my life still sound appealing now? Could you imagine yourself this kind of life?

You see, this is the side to my life that people don’t always ask about or see.

For me, it is my dream life and I absolutely love it!! I WOULDN’T SWAP IT FOR ANYTHING!!

But I can’t imagine many people actually enjoying living the way I do.

Most people need a familiar home to go back to at the end of every day and love “things”, such as a nice car, a nice house, a big flat screen TV, their box sets, gadgets and a regular routine.

Most people like to have a wardrobe full of clothes, always be near their friends and family, have a steady job, sleep in the same bed every night and spend their vacation in a nice hot country abroad somewhere with a partner or family.

And if you do want most of these things, then that is great. But it is not what I want.

And so here lies the moral of the story.

Never compare yourself to other people as we are all very different and we all want different things out of life.

Also, the way we perceive other people’s lives may not actually be the way they are.

If you look closely at someone who seems to ‘have it all’, you will probably discover that actually, their life wouldn’t suit you at all.

We all like and want different things out of life and one size does not fit all.

So rather than measuring success by comparing ourselves to other people, we should really just have a good, long hard think about what it is that we want and measure our success by how happy we are.

And if we are happy, then why stress and strain chasing after more?

Toby has been practising the healing arts of the East for nearly twenty years and spent 13 years living in South East Asia where he studied meditation, Asian philosophy and Chinese medicine whilst working in Health and Wellness resorts around South East Asia.

Working as both a health and wellness consultant and practitioner at some of the top destination spas in the world means Toby has a wealth of knowledge.

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Comments 4

  • It is amazing or very scary that your emails always come at the right time with the right message. <3

  • Nice post Toby. I can very much relate to this as we have discussed this many times before. As you know, I very much like my wardrobe full of clothes ha ha!
    What I find interesting is how much we get used to a situation and then want something else. So, what may seem like a perfect life today may not feel like it tomorrow.

    • Thanks Adam..very good point. As we are always changing, so do the things we want out of life. Amd when we achieve out goals..doesn’t mean to say that we will spend the rest of our lives in a state of eternal bliss!!

      I think there is a side of us that enjoys comfort but also a large part of us that enjoys a bit of a struggle in life too.

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